January 29, 2017 at 8:09 am (The Serious Stuff) (, , , )

This Donna Hylton crap – she has been as a reason to invalidate every other person who marched or supported the march. Like her sucky assed bullshit past rubs off on them like wet paint. It doesn’t.
It’s like saying you can’t support civil rights because one black guy somewhere at some point in history hit white man.
Can’t support Native American rights because they fought back.
All Japanese – horrible, horrible people because of Pearl Harbor.
All Chinese – also horrible horrible people because they invented gunpowder.
All Russians- untrustworthy, because they used to be a Communist country.
I don’t even have to say anything about Muslims – we already know why they are all assumed to be bad.
No facts, just more divisive bullshit.
Are you not tired of the divisive bullshit yet – on the national level, on the local level, to the point of driving away family and friends, likely permanently? Isn’t there a point when you can let it go?
I’m not talking to anyone I know specifically, I’m talking in general to the world. I fully expect to be ignored.
No one said you had to like the woman – she’s not great, IMO, either. But her and whomever else you want to point fingers at for their choice of how the got the message across, every mistake they ever made, cause you don’t like the color of their hair, FFS, does not take away from the message.
It didn’t in 1848, it didn’t all through the 1960s, it doesn’t now.
And before you start comparing it and saying ok, the the message of the KKK is valid too.There is a difference. The difference of the one or the few vs the many. The difference of legitimate concern for the state of the country, for people’s rights. for the state of the world, vs as pure as possibly ale to be hatred against anything not just like you
Participation in the KKK or the Aryn Nation is being part of a group that was designed as a hate group – a hate for anyone not pure white, Christian. Putting on a pink hat and marching because you’re worried about how things will be in the not too far future for your children – not a hate group.

EDIT – I’ve just been told these are not the same, and that I am “unhinged”.  So I responded.

“Actually, it is. She was one speaker out of 20 some speakers and musicians, in ONE city. And yet she is being used as the example for ALL people who went to that event, no matter what city they were in, or where they were worldwide – because one of these events decided it was a good thing to let her speak. Stupid idea – on that we can agree.

But she is being used as the example of why you cannot trust anyone who marched or has shown support – from government leaders on down to the bagger at the local grocery.
Because a killer and a torturer supports this, EVERYONE who supports it is just as bad as her, so it invalidates everything they have to say.
It’s being used by the right and alt right media, buy people who don’t understand and don’t want to understand, and it’s been used by people we know – and I know you’ve been privy to those discussions. (the person whose thread I was responding to)
It IS the same. Historically we can pull out documents that say the black man is a violent savage because one day, a slave had enough and grabbed that whip out of his master’s hand and turned it on him. There lots of apologists for this before, during and even after the Civil War. These are not hard documents to find.
Just wander on down to southern Colorado and look at the foundations left from the Japanese internment camps in Granada. American citizens, most American by several generations, imprisoned for the actions of a country they’d never called their own.
Now, it’s social media jail for everyone with a differing point of view.
You know, being a white male is considered the best thing ever by Charles Manson – should we start treating all white males as if they were anathema because of his bullshit? I say no, So maybe, someday, people could stop treating everyone as if someone else’s bullshit is their bullshit because they support the same cause.”

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“Woke”: I Don’t Think This Word Means What You Think It Means

November 15, 2016 at 10:46 am (The Serious Stuff) (, , , , )

And addendum to the post of the other day, regarding safety pins.

If you refuse help from someone when you need it because they’re wearing a safety pin, you are not “woke”. If you use your situation as a weapon against others just trying to help, you are not “woke”. If you use your credentials as a writer, and your position in life to attempt to silence others who are doing their best to get out there and at least try to make things better, you are the furthest from “woke” as you could possibly be without crossing the lines into bigotry.

For those all offended by this idea of the safety pin, please explain how your lambasting, anger over your personal condition, and clear inherent distrust of those at least trying does a thing to make any of it better. You may not see the effort as grand enough, but this effort “matters to that starfish”.

Focus on being a better person yourself, and stop hating on those who are attempting to do the same.

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I will NOT Carry Your White Guilt

November 13, 2016 at 10:21 am (The Serious Stuff) (, , , )

I’m responding to Mr. Christopher Keelty, who wrote a blog post that went viral, stating “Dear White People, Your Safety Pins Are Embarrassing”. NO, I’m not going to give Mr. Keelty the page views by posting a link.  I will give you in context quotes, However.

“Let me explain something, white people: We just fucked up. Bad. We elected a racist demagogue who has promised to do serious harm to almost every person who isn’t a straight white male, and whose rhetoric has already stirred up hate crimes nationwide. White people were 70% of the voters in the 2016 election, and we’re the only demographic Trump won. It doesn’t matter why. What matters is there’s a white nationalist moving into the Oval Office, and white people — only white people — put him there.

We don’t get to make ourselves feel better by putting on safety pins and self-designating ourselves as allies.”

He then went on to say that we are all guilty, because all if it is white people’s fault.  We all are the white people voted for Trump, apparently.The ones on the internet, reading this.  And apparently, we ALL did it.  Every one of us. No matter how we actually voted, it all our faults. That’s the not so implied implication of his post.

Here’s what I have to say in return.

Who is “WE”? I didn’t vote for the man, and I do NOT appreciate being lumped into your ball of racial guilt just because you happen to be a well off white guy. I’m not going to take the blame for your situation, your voting preferences, my neighbors voting preferences. And it very much is a white, entitled point of view to think you can lay all the blame for this man on all white people, when only 1/4 of the eligible voters in the U.S. could even be bothered to vote.
And as for self designating to be an ally – praytell, how else do you think it happens? That they call you out of class in junior high and give you a special card, tell you what it is to be a LBGT ally, a “minority” ally, and this is your job for the rest of your life? 
You self designate. You don’t tend to plan it, it is something you do as decent human being. You stand up to the bullies in elementary school on behalf of the picked on. You don’t become a bully yourself. In high school and college, you make sure that really drunk girl gets home safe so that you don’t have to hear about her date rape later on. You make sure you treat the Goth kid, and the fat kid and the effeminate kid (who isn’t gay) and the jock (who IS gay) and everyone as if they were human beings and as if they matter.

Yeah, I self designated at some point way back in elementary school without even thinking about it – I stood by kids I hardly knew when they were getting bullied, and I got in trouble with the school for doing so. I got in fistfights with a couple bullies in elementary and junior high. All through high school and college, I got drunk friends -male and female- out of bad party situations, even when I was threatened for doing so.


I can call out specific instances  when I stood between others and their bullies, but I don’t need to.  I’m not here to be praised for what I’ve done.  This is just who I am, how I was raised, and how I raised my kids to be. I have friends from all walks of life – Gay, straight, transgender, alternatively lifestyled and religioned, all the way to white, straight and devoutly Christian. And EVERY ONE of my real true friends knows I will stand between them and the bullies. In person when I can, online when I cannot. They know our home is open to them any time.It’s been that way for decades, and will continue to be so.
So if I want to wear a safety pin or 10 or a thousand, I am not going to be shamed by the likes of you into not doing so. I’m not going to take on the burden of YOUR unhappiness and guilt.   And by telling everyone they should be ashamed of trying to be decent human beings to other human beings, you are JUST as bad as those people bullying and assaulting people who are different than them “because Trump said it’s OK”.
And in the end, if you found yourself a target of those people, I’d stand between you and them.

Not because of who YOU are, but because of who I am.

And oh yeah, Black lives matter.  I don’t need to be wandering about in a t shirt that says that, because by your standards, that t shirt is as meaningless as the safety pin.  It’s what you actually DO, not what you wear and talk about with your other “privilege class” friends, or a blog post shaming folks.  It’s what you do.  Stop talking and do something.  I have, and I always will, as long as I am physically and mentally able. Can you say the same?


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Reasons to Leave Society

July 13, 2014 at 8:11 am (The Serious Stuff)

I’m about to become a hermit. Seriously. People shouldn’t let me buy lottery tickets, because when I win, I’m gone.

I’m tired of this shaming culture we have now –

Shame men and tell them they are part of rape culture because they had the misfortune to be born with a penis – it automatically makes them a probable rapist.  Uhh, No. It does not.

Shame women and tell them they are gold diggers or whores, just because they have the misfortune to be born with a vagina.  Uhh, no. They are not.

Shame new parents, tell them how bad they are at the job of raising their kids, because they don’t do it EXACTLY as you do.  Uhh no, they are not.

Shame teenagers – both for having sex before age 18, and those for not having sex until after 18.  Not your damn business.

Shame children, for wanting to be children and run about, scream and play. Instead, try to regulate every minute of their day. Doesn’t work. Let them alone to play in the mud with sticks.  They aren’t going to die without your eye on them 24/7.

Shame the low income person for having something nice they had before they became poor.  Tell them they are lazy, and indigent, and basically worthless, all while treating them like crap when you have to deal with them as a hotel room cleaner, a waitress, any sort of service job.  But then also expect good service with a smile, just taking the abuse?  Not gonna happen.

Shame the person who has done well, act as if they are selfish and won’t share.  That’s not every rich person.  Some do more than you will ever know, but they don’t broadcast it, because they don’t need the acclaim to feel good about themselves.

Shame the fat for supposedly eating too much, shame the skinny for supposedly eating too little. Shame the young, the old, the healthy, the sick, shame everyone.

Treat everyone like they are pieces of dirt and scum, because somehow, that’s become the socially acceptable thing to do.

And complain. Complain about everything, especially to people who have no control over the situation whatsoever.  Complain to the news station because you didn’t like the weather today, or this week.  Complain because it snows or rains- then complain because it doesn’t. Act like people should or can control uncontrollable situations.

And don’t forget to speak like you are an authority on all things, especially when you have no clue what others are talking about.

Be a hypocrite as well – complain that deer eat your precious flowers, and poo all over your precious grass,  but when a controlled hunt is discussed to keep herds healthy, vilify anyone for it cruel and heartless, killing the poor innocent animals that cannot defend themselves.

Keep treating other people like shit if that’s how you must roll.  But stop being surprised when they stop taking it from you.

I can talk til I’m blue in the face, but the culture of the decent person appears to be gone, with the exception of a few hold outs.  Keep on keepin’ on, holdouts.  Once I’m over this ‘want to be a hermit” stage, I’ll be right back out there with you.

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What You Believe About Homosexuality Doesn’t Matter

December 21, 2013 at 7:54 pm (The Serious Stuff)

When faced with the choice between being theologically correct…as if this is even possible…and being morally responsible, I’ll go with morally responsible every time.

via What You Believe About Homosexuality Doesn’t Matter.

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